While I always figured I'd find love and get married all American Dream-like just because that's the script we're all handed Hehe, what's funny about this is a previous version of this entry had a whole paragraph about my consumption of popular culture and society's views of what's supposed to happen romantically in general. Great minds. My parents (or mom really since my dad's mostly focused on his own pursuits) definitely pushed us all to focus on school more than anything else. They supported us no matter what, though.
I never really understood girls preplanning their weddings anyway. I agree that it should be more a symbol of union between two people rather than what the lady pictures as *her* perfect day. Then again, I've never planned a wedding, so maybe I just don't get it! I took a class on estate planning while getting my paralegal degree, and while it's weird to think about what'll happen to all my effects after I die, I bet it's easier to figure that out for yourself than it is to plan a huge shindig wedding. Yikes. Uh, anyway...
Yeah, I definitely can't relate to the great majority of "I love you so much, baby boo!" songs out there. Whenever someone pointed out this really romantic song they liked, almost always it would come off as either unhealthy or creepy to me. (Why are there so many stalker-iffic love songs out there anyway?) I don't know. I find myself wanting to be more romantic lately, but at the same time, I can't seem to change my style. It's either slightly melancholy (more realistic or genuine sounding to me) or nothin'!
Also, I'm glad you got something out of that. By the end of it, I was kind of confusing myself with everything I have going on in my head. I think I'm trying to weave too many things together. I tend to make things overly complicated when it comes to my own feelings from time to time. It amazes me how I can read other people's general moods really easily but am utterly clueless about my own sometimes. I don't necessarily think this thought process is completely dependent on my history and experiences, though they have influenced them somewhat. I do think it may be possible to reach certain levels of stasis where I'm okay with myself and being in a relationship, but they are not meant to last, probably because we're ever evolving creatures and can't stay still or overly defined for too long. It's the journey and all that, the trial and error, and no reaching plateaus lest we get too comfortable or something. Once again, kind of going weird in my head, but you get the idea. Thanks.
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Hehe, what's funny about this is a previous version of this entry had a whole paragraph about my consumption of popular culture and society's views of what's supposed to happen romantically in general. Great minds. My parents (or mom really since my dad's mostly focused on his own pursuits) definitely pushed us all to focus on school more than anything else. They supported us no matter what, though.
I never really understood girls preplanning their weddings anyway. I agree that it should be more a symbol of union between two people rather than what the lady pictures as *her* perfect day. Then again, I've never planned a wedding, so maybe I just don't get it! I took a class on estate planning while getting my paralegal degree, and while it's weird to think about what'll happen to all my effects after I die, I bet it's easier to figure that out for yourself than it is to plan a huge shindig wedding. Yikes. Uh, anyway...
Yeah, I definitely can't relate to the great majority of "I love you so much, baby boo!" songs out there. Whenever someone pointed out this really romantic song they liked, almost always it would come off as either unhealthy or creepy to me. (Why are there so many stalker-iffic love songs out there anyway?) I don't know. I find myself wanting to be more romantic lately, but at the same time, I can't seem to change my style. It's either slightly melancholy (more realistic or genuine sounding to me) or nothin'!
Also, I'm glad you got something out of that. By the end of it, I was kind of confusing myself with everything I have going on in my head. I think I'm trying to weave too many things together. I tend to make things overly complicated when it comes to my own feelings from time to time. It amazes me how I can read other people's general moods really easily but am utterly clueless about my own sometimes. I don't necessarily think this thought process is completely dependent on my history and experiences, though they have influenced them somewhat. I do think it may be possible to reach certain levels of stasis where I'm okay with myself and being in a relationship, but they are not meant to last, probably because we're ever evolving creatures and can't stay still or overly defined for too long. It's the journey and all that, the trial and error, and no reaching plateaus lest we get too comfortable or something. Once again, kind of going weird in my head, but you get the idea. Thanks.