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It's Complicated
Jun. 27th, 2011 08:57 pmI still have other posts to write because stuff is happening, but this week-old (and wandering) entry from my paper journal seems closer to the present moment for various reasons. Shrug.
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I think some people say, "It's complicated," because the scenario being questioned isn't necessarily something they want to discuss. That's not the way the sentence was originally formed in my head. Hmm. It's more they want to mask the true situation from others and, perhaps, even themselves. Sure, the details of the situation may indeed be complex, and it's not worth delving into just to satisfy the curiosity of a passer-by to your life, but maybe underneath all those complexities lies the truth--
that it's not complicated so much as devastatingly simple in a way that would utterly destroy a person if they didn't bury it under scores of details.
As long as, "It's complicated," the big picture simplicity can't hurt the person, and eventually the disentanglement will reveal itself when the person is ready for it or the whole mess will be swept under the rug.
Hard to tell sometimes, though, because you can't be in a situation and see it from an outsider's perspective at the same time. One either has to be subjectively part or objectively studying the situation. You can't really have it both ways no matter how good you believe you are at multitasking, which is why retrospection reveals details that were difficult to see the first time around. However, getting to that period where one can look back in hindsight involves forgetting certain aspects of the experience in order to build a cohesive narrative, if only for the viewer's sake.
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I thought I had more to add, but right now, I don't. That's it.
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I think some people say, "It's complicated," because the scenario being questioned isn't necessarily something they want to discuss. That's not the way the sentence was originally formed in my head. Hmm. It's more they want to mask the true situation from others and, perhaps, even themselves. Sure, the details of the situation may indeed be complex, and it's not worth delving into just to satisfy the curiosity of a passer-by to your life, but maybe underneath all those complexities lies the truth--
that it's not complicated so much as devastatingly simple in a way that would utterly destroy a person if they didn't bury it under scores of details.
As long as, "It's complicated," the big picture simplicity can't hurt the person, and eventually the disentanglement will reveal itself when the person is ready for it or the whole mess will be swept under the rug.
Hard to tell sometimes, though, because you can't be in a situation and see it from an outsider's perspective at the same time. One either has to be subjectively part or objectively studying the situation. You can't really have it both ways no matter how good you believe you are at multitasking, which is why retrospection reveals details that were difficult to see the first time around. However, getting to that period where one can look back in hindsight involves forgetting certain aspects of the experience in order to build a cohesive narrative, if only for the viewer's sake.
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I thought I had more to add, but right now, I don't. That's it.
